The Emotional Stages of Divorce: A Guide to Emotional Healing

emotional stages of divorce

There is no denying that divorce is a complex and stressful emotional and psychological process. From the initial feelings of shock and disbelief to the anger and resentment that can build over time, divorce can be an emotionally charged experience.

It can be hard to understand and process all the changes. If you are going through a divorce, it is crucial to be aware of the different stages of divorce so that you can better understand how to cope with the process.

The five emotional stages of divorce

While every divorce is unique, there are some common stages that people often go through.

Denial: The first stage of divorce is often denial, where individuals first realise the marriage is ending and may try to deny it. They may also try to hold on to the hope that things will work out and the marriage be saved.

Anger: The second stage is anger, when individuals may start to feel resentment and anger towards their spouses. They may also begin to blame their spouse for the divorce.

Read More: Addressing Defensiveness and Anger as you go through your Divorce

Bargaining: The third stage is bargaining, when individuals may start to try to negotiate with their spouse to save their marriage. They may try to make concessions to keep the peace.

Depression: The fourth stage is depression, when individuals may start to feel hopeless and helpless. They may also begin to withdraw from friends and family.

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Acceptance: When individuals begin to accept that their marriage is over and start to move on with their lives.

While not everyone going through a divorce will experience all these emotional stages, how an individual processes the emotions may have a lot to do with their personality traits.

Studies suggest that there may be a link between certain personality traits and divorce.

Is there a link between personality traits and divorce?

There is no one answer to this question as it is a complex issue with many factors. However, the truth is that any couple can divorce regardless of their personality traits. However, some personality types may be more likely to experience divorce.

A study found that people high in neuroticism and low in agreeableness are more likely to get divorced. According to this study, people with “neuroticism” experience self-doubts, anger, sorrow, and anger while likely irritable and moody.

These people have a negative view of marriage and life overall. They are likely to perceive everyday situations and minor frustrations as threatening.

These people are more likely to divorce than others, as are people who have narcissistic, impulsive, high-strung, or easily bored.

People who are very independent or have a strong need for personal space may also be more likely to divorce as they may have a harder time compromising or being intimate with another person.

Building resilience and healing after divorce

Many separating and divorcing adults experience profound loneliness and the loss of lifestyle, hopes and aspirations. Counselling to target ‘loneliness‘ and ‘letting go’ may be helpful. In addition, acceptance and Commitment Therapy can lead to growth and healing.

With the proper support, you can come out of divorce feeling stronger and more resilient than ever.

How Gloria James-Civetta lawyers can help

If you’re considering a divorce, you will need to make many decisions before beginning the next chapter of your life. Our empathetic divorce lawyers can help you navigate the legal process during this difficult time.

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