If You Have Decided to Divorce
The decision to divorce is probably the most difficult step you will take during your life. If you have reached this point, you may ask yourself:
- Where do I go now?
- I feel confused, what are my options?
- How will child issues be handled?
- Whatever I do, I want to be sure that I am making the right decisions. How do I move my life forward from this point?
- Is there support available before and subsequent to filing for divorce?
There are wrong ways and right ways to go about taking that first step. Below are tips to help you make the right informed decisions:
1. Get educated, do your online research and familiarise yourself on how the divorce process in Singapore works. During the divorce process, you’ll be called upon to make many significant decisions that will affect you and your children for years to come. The more informed and prepared you are, the better the quality your negotiations will be.
2. Learn about your divorce options. Every family is different, and so are the circumstances in every divorce. Below are options for you to consider:
Uncontested Divorce. Divorcing couples determine all their assets and liabilities, gather the necessary supporting documentation and come to an agreement on all outstanding issues, thus avoiding costly litigation. This is the cheapest and quickest form of divorce in Singapore.
4-way Lawyer Negotiations with Parties. This process can be employed prior to and subsequent to filing for a divorce. Divorcing couples, through their own lawyers, sit through a series of “without prejudice” meetings to try and come to an agreement on divorce terms.
Court Litigation Process. This process comes into play when parties are acrimonious and are unable to come to an agreement on the termination of the marriage and/or ancillary issues. There are two stages to the divorce proceedings; Divorce & Ancillary matters. Click here for more details on the divorce process in Singapore.
Collaborative Divorce. Collaborative Family Practice (CFP) aims to help parties engage in a non-acrimonious settlement of differences without going to court. Divorcing couples are each represented by their own set of Singapore trained collaborative lawyers who come together to assist divorcing couples resolve conflicts by employing cooperative techniques rather than adversarial strategies and litigation. The collaborative process is most suitable where there are substantial assets and issues involved.
3. Get the right support. No matter how isolated you may feel, put aside the idea that the need for support is shameful or that you “must to be strong” all the time.
Nowadays there are Divorce Coaching Services available, which you can call upon to get you through this time of traumatic transition. A Certified Singapore Divorce Coach can work with you in finding the road to your new life before, during and after the divorce process. After all, you deserve a life that is full of peace and happiness.
By being focused and in control of your emotions, you can better prepare yourself for your divorce negotiations and approach them with a calm, level head.
4. Think about the future of your children
If you have children, it is important to be aware of the issues that will arise before you take any form of action. Your priority will be working out new arrangements for who your children will spend time with and when.
- How do we tell the children?
- Who will they children live with?
- Who is responsible to pay child support?
- What will be the amount of child support paid?
- How does the law view child custody?
- What can I do to ease my child through this period?