Child custody in Singapore is often misunderstood, particularly by parents going through a divorce. Fathers may assume that custody will automatically be given to the mother, while others believe that a spouse’s adultery or conduct during the marriage will determine who gets custody of the children.
These assumptions can lead to unnecessary anxiety and conflict as there is no automatic rule that custody goes to the mother or that a parent who was at fault in the marriage will lose custody. The Court considers what arrangement will best serve the child’s needs and welfare.
In this article, we address three common myths about child custody in Singapore and explain what parents should understand when approaching custody arrangements after divorce.
- Child custody in Singapore is determined by the welfare and best interests of the child.
- Mothers are not automatically granted sole custody simply because they are the mother.
- Joint custody is commonly ordered, allowing both parents to remain involved in major decisions concerning their child.
- Custody and care and control are different — custody concerns major decisions, while care and control concerns the child’s day-to-day care.
- A spouse’s adultery does not automatically affect child custody unless the circumstances are relevant to the child’s welfare.
- Parents who are denied court-ordered access may have legal options to enforce the access arrangements.
- Each family is different, so custody arrangements will depend on the particular circumstances of the child and parents.
In line with the principles laid out in the Guardianship of Infants Act, the court determines which parent(s) is in a better position to make major decisions for the child.
However, couples going through a divorce often confuse child custody with that of care and control.
The former looks at the legal custody of the child which accords parents’ long-term decision-making authority to take care of more prominent aspects of the child’s life such as religion, education, and healthcare.
On the other hand, the latter refers to the physical custody granted to the parent who will be responsible for the day-to-day matters of the child’s life such as accommodation and food.
In understanding this legal concept, we look into three misconceptions about child custody.
My wife will be granted child custody regardless of whether I have been more committed as a father.
The belief that mothers will always be granted sole custody of the children is the biggest myth of child custody.
Otherwise depending on the facts of the case, joint custody is usually awarded to both parents who are legally granted an equal say in all important decisions made pertaining to the child.
This is because the court finds that the presence of both parents in the child’s life is essential during his/her growing years. Where joint custody is not appropriate, the court will decide which of the other custody orders is more suitable for the child.
The court applies the welfare principle when granting child custody. It does so by looking at the level of stability and security the parents can offer and whether their lifestyles will be beneficial for the child’s wellbeing, among other relevant aspects.
Therefore, fathers should not feel biased when matters of custody are discussed in court as their role as a parent will equally play a part in the court’s decision.
While mothers are typically regarded as the primary caregiver of children and the court would most likely grant care and control (or physical custody) to them, the welfare of the child will still remain of utmost importance.
If the court does not find the mother fit to manage the daily responsibilities of raising a child, the court will not grant her care and control. Such cases may arise if the mother does not have the physical or mental capability to care for the child on a daily basis or exhibit abusive and neglectful parenting behaviour.
Read more: Child Custody Battles: 6 Things Dads Should Know
My ex-spouse will not get legal child custody of my children because of his/her adultery
Believing that the act of adultery by one party will force the court to make decisions in favour of the other is another pressing myth.
While adultery is one of the grounds spouses can use to file for a divorce, the court in Singapore does not look at who is in the wrong when deciding matters pertaining to the child.
The child’s interests are the most important and the act of adultery by one spouse that led to the divorce will not directly influence the court’s decision on custody matters.
However, if the party in question is a serial adulterer, or leads a rather promiscuous lifestyle, the courts may pay more attention to the commitment of the spouse to ascertain his/her capability of making major decisions for the child.
It would also have a bearing on its decision to award care and control.
Read more: 9 Factors Affecting Child Custody in a Singapore Divorce
Despite joint custody, my strained relationship with my spouse means I have no say in my child’s future.
Starting January 2, 2025, Singapore introduced enhanced child access enforcement measures to ensure that divorced parents can maintain meaningful relationships with their children. Under these reforms, the courts have greater authority to uphold access orders and take action against parents who unfairly deny access.
If a parent breaches an access order, they may be required to attend mandatory counselling or mediation to address conflicts and improve co-parenting communication. The court can also order make-up access to compensate for lost time with the child and may require financial compensation for expenses incurred due to the breach, such as missed prepaid travel arrangements.
For repeated violations, stricter penalties will apply. The courts can impose security pledges or performance bonds, ensuring compliance with access orders. In cases of persistent and unjustified denial of access, penalties such as fines or even jail terms can be imposed on the parent with care and control.
Additionally, changes to the Family Justice Rules will streamline enforcement processes, making it easier and less costly for affected parents to seek legal recourse.
These new measures prioritise the child’s well-being by fostering co-parenting cooperation and holding both parents accountable for ensuring stable, positive parent-child relationships. With these protections in place, no parent should feel helpless or without options when facing unfair access restrictions.
Need Advice About Child Custody?
Every family is different, and child custody disputes are rarely resolved by applying a simple rule about mothers, fathers or who was responsible for the breakdown of the marriage. What matters is the child’s welfare and the circumstances of the individual family.
Our divorce and child custody lawyers in Singapore regularly advise parents on joint custody, sole custody, care and control, child access and contested custody proceedings. We can help you understand your position, assess the practical options available and work towards parenting arrangements that protect your child’s welfare while preserving your role as a parent.
If you are concerned about child custody or your access to your children following divorce, speak with our family lawyers about your options and the appropriate next steps.
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