I have heard the pleas and cries of spouses that have been abused and emotionally suffering in their marriage to a narcissist spouse.
I salute you for taking the FIRST step to recognise that your spouse is a narcissist. NEXT, you need to acknowledge yourself for taking action to stop the nightmare. NOW, you need to take control of your life.
- Be emotionally strong and level-headed
- Have a good support network of family/friends.
- Hire a Divorce Lawyer with skill-sets to deal with a narcissist spouse
- Be the reasonable well-behaved spouse
- Identify your goals
Be emotionally strong and level-headed
Have a good support network of family/friends.
As the divorce process kicks in and you attempt to move on with your life, it’s important that you surround yourself with family and friends who can have a positive impact and make this transition easier. By listening and allowing you to vent your hurt emotions, the right people can offer you comforting advice which often proves very helpful.
Hire a Divorce Lawyer with skill-sets to deal with a narcissist spouse
Study the patterns of your spouse`s responses and make sure that you have a solid strategy. You would benefit from hiring an experienced divorce lawyer who has had training as a Divorce Coach who can support and guide you with decision-making, goal-setting & achieving.
Be the reasonable well-behaved spouse
Don’t battle your narcissist spouse by becoming a narcissist yourself. Avoid falling into the trap by becoming unreasonable yourself. Disengage him/her by thinking logically and factually with the guidance of your divorce lawyer.
Identify your goals
Be clear with your divorce lawyer as to exactly what you want to achieve. Your divorce lawyer should help and guide you to see the bigger picture. Don’t get caught up in tit-for-tat fights over the smallest issues. Your narcissist spouse wants to control and test your reactions in accordance with their agenda.