Divorcing a Narcissist Spouse in Singapore

Let’s start with explaining the following words:

“Narcissism” involves cockiness, manipulativeness, selfishness and underlying motives.

“Narcissist” means a person having high self-esteem and self-importance.

“Narcissistic Personality Disorder” means a long-term pattern of abnormal behaviour characterized by exaggerated feelings of self-importance, an excessive need for admiration and a lack of understanding of others’ feelings.

People affected by if often spend a lot of time thinking about achieving power or success. They often take advantage of the people around them for their own gains.

Allow us to take it from here.

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So, how can you spot a spouse who has these traits? Easy, look out for these tell-tale signs in the treatment you receive.
  • Always insisting that he/she is right;
  • Carrying grudges against you;
  • Not willing to listen to you;
  • Belittles you, making you feel inferior;
  • Manipulates you and you feel used;
  • Blames you when something goes wrong;
  • Always controlling and domineering over you;
  • Criticizes you and your appearance;
  • Does not show TLC (tender love and care) towards you.
So, what do you do when you have identified at least 80% of the above traits?
    • You can :
  • See a marriage counsellor to work on your marriage;
  • Accept your spouse’s behaviour, hoping that he/she will change;
  • See a therapist to boost your morale and confidence and to acknowledge that it’s not your fault;
  • End your marriage and put your own personal well-being first.
If you have decided to end your marriage, let us explain why it is okay to divorce.

No one expects you to be trapped and suffer in a relationship when it is no longer sustainable and meaningful. If you have tried to save your marriage, sought counselling and realised that for your sanity and your well-being and that of your children is important, then it’s perfectly fine to divorce a spouse with narcissistic traits. No one expects you to live in marriage hell.

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Many fear that a divorce with a Narcissist spouse can result in an expensive, prolonged and highly contested proceedings.

Is this true? How can I avoid a high-conflict divorce?
Let us give you some tips-

  • Listen to your voice and act level-headed;
  • Do not let emotions overcome you;
  • Do not react adversely to any action/reaction from your spouse;
  • Always put yourself in your spouse’s shoes and think what he/she is likely to do and use that thought to your advantage and strategize a counter-attack by applying logical steps and moves;
  • Plan and have a bottom-line on what you wish to have as a full and final settlement of your ancillary issues. You need to know what you need to have for your future without your spouse;
  • Hire a lawyer that is able to safeguard, negotiate and fight for your rights without pushing the matter for trial;
  • Hire a lawyer that has training in negotiating and knows how to act in your interests;
  • Prior to commencing action, meet your lawyer and discuss your rights and options and start gathering important financial information and evidence to support your case and claims;
  • Have an open mind to resolve matters via the mediation process and keep litigation as a last resort;
  • As much as family and friends support is important, do not let them dictate how you should run your matter;
  • Do not involve and put your children in the middle of your dispute;
  • Always ask yourself, am I acting reasonably or unreasonably?;
  • Bear in mind that you have the control and you can manage the outcome of your future.
If you are ready to move on and need legal advice or representation regarding divorce matters, please don’t hesitate to contact Gloria James-Civetta & Co, to get the legal advice you need.
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