If you’re considering divorcing a narcissistic spouse, you’re probably already aware that you’re going to need to be more on your guard than the average person going through a divorce.
Narcissistic people need to win and will usually do anything in their power to achieve it, even if it violates rules of fair play.
Do not let your spouse’s nature deter you from your decision, however. You deserve to live a life from their control. You can successfully divorce a narcissist and start afresh, but it’s important to respect the following five rules.
Document Everything
Even if you’re not yet 100 percent certain that you’re ready to divorce, begin keeping track of everything about your life with your spouse.
Make copies of financial records, receipts, leases, property deeds, and tax documents. Save voicemails and print or take screenshots of any emails, texts, letters that you’ve received from your spouse, as these can be essential to revealing aggressive, manipulative, controlling or psychologically abusive behavior.
Such valuable evidence can be essential to discrediting your spouse or disputing lies.
Divorcing a Narcissist? GJC Law is Here to Support You
Divorcing a partner with narcissistic traits can be emotionally and legally complex. At GJC Law, our experienced team understands these dynamics and provides steady guidance throughout the process.
We focus on protecting your rights, anticipating difficult behaviours, and keeping the proceedings on track toward a fair and practical outcome. With our support, you can move forward with clarity and confidence.
Let GJC Law guide you through this with clarity and authority.
Develop a Clear Plan
Divorcing a narcissistic spouse requires more than just legal representation, it calls for a well-structured plan and a clear end goal.
Narcissists often thrive on creating conflict or disrupting the process. That’s why our team works with you from the outset to anticipate potential challenges and develop a tailored strategy that keeps the focus on what truly matters, achieving a fair, stable resolution.
We guide you through each stage of the proceedings, helping you stay composed and goal-oriented even when your spouse attempts to derail the process. With GJC Law by your side, you can move forward with confidence, knowing that every step you take is supported by experience, preparation, and foresight.
Read more: How to Know It’s Time to Let Go and Move Forward
Keep Cool
Narcissists feed upon your emotions and seek to goad you into losing control.
In divorce, they’ll often push your buttons with lies or exaggerations to try to throw you off-balance and make you lose your temper. But when you don’t stay cool, you risk coming across as the irrational spouse. Don’t fall for their games.
You can triumph over your spouse by refusing to let his or her games change your behavior. Keep focused on your goals, minimize direct contact with your spouse, and reign in any rising emotional outbursts.
It’s better to let your divorce lawyer speak for you as much as possible.
Building a Strong Support System
At GJC Law, we recognise that marriage to a narcissist can take an emotional toll, and the divorce process can feel equally demanding. That’s why we place great emphasis on helping our clients build the right support around them.
Our divorce lawyers work closely with you to ensure you’re never navigating the process alone. We help you access the right professional and emotional resources, from counsellors and therapists to co-parenting experts where needed, so you have the guidance and stability to make informed decisions.
With our steady legal support and a trusted network by your side, you can stay focused on what truly matters: achieving a fair outcome and rebuilding life on your terms.
Read more: What Every Singapore Divorce Lawyer Should Do
We’re here for you
When you contact our matrimonial law team, we will provide you with a consultation, tailored to your specific circumstances and goals in mind.
Our goal is to help you find a resolution that works for you.
