Divorce is more than a legal process, it’s an emotional, psychological, financial, and social upheaval.
When marriages end, even before any legal papers are filed, there’s often a storm of uncertainty: What comes next? How will decisions affect your future? How do you sort through the emotions and rebuild your life?
That’s where divorce coaching comes in.
What is Divorce Coaching?
Divorce coaching is a professionally-trained, structured support service, provided by Gloria James-Civetta (CDC Certified Divorce Coach®), that helps you:
- Clarify your goals and priorities in this transition.
- Make sense of the legal, financial, emotional, and practical steps ahead. (Even though Gloria is a divorce lawyer, in her coaching role she focuses on guiding decisions rather than taking over the legal process.)
- Organise documents, stay on track, avoid common pitfalls.
- Manage emotional ups and downs, build resilience, see past the immediate crisis.
- Prepare for negotiations, for what life after divorce could look like, including financial and parenting aspects.
In short: divorce coaching empowers you to make informed decisions, maintain clarity despite emotional turbulence, and move forward into a new chapter with confidence. Gloria combines her legal background (29+ years as a family/divorce lawyer) with her coaching credentials to provide both strategic and emotional support.
Divorce Counselling vs. Divorce Coaching: What’s the Difference?
While “counselling” and “coaching” might sound similar and sometimes overlap in people’s minds, they are different in purpose, style, and outcome. Here are the key distinctions:
| Aspect | Divorce Counselling | Divorce Coaching (as offered by Gloria) |
| Primary Focus | Healing emotional wounds, trauma, exploring past hurt, processing feelings. | Forward-looking goals, decision-making, planning, regaining control, clarity. |
| Role of the Professional | Counsellor/therapist listens, helps process emotions, may use therapeutic modalities, sometimes long-term. | Coach asks probing questions, helps set goals, offers structure, aids in decision-making, gives strategic and practical guidance. |
| Duration & Structure | May be open-ended, comfortable pace, slower reflection, less “action plan” oriented. | More structured: you work together on what you need to do now, next steps, what matters most to you. |
| Emphasis | Healing, coping, emotional recovery. | Clarity, strategy, navigating choices, ensuring future decisions align with values, reducing overwhelm. |
| When useful | If there is significant trauma, deep emotional distress, mental health concerns. | If you want to act (or are acting) but need support to do so consciously, thoughtfully, with a plan. |
What Gloria Does Not Do: Why We Offer Only Divorce Coaching
Gloria James-Civetta does not offer divorce counselling in the sense of therapy. She offers only divorce coaching. This means:
- Her work is not therapy: She won’t provide psychotherapy, diagnose mental health disorders, or conduct long-term counselling sessions to deeply unpack past trauma beyond what helps with decision-making and emotional management in the divorce process.
- The focus is on empowerment, clarity, strategy. Coaching sessions are intended to help you move forward, make decisions, and build your path ahead, rather than as therapy to process every emotional wound.
- If more intensive emotional or psychological healing is needed, one may also consult a counsellor or therapist. Gloria’s coaching can be part of an integrated approach but is distinct in what it aims to achieve.
Why Divorce Coaching
Because Gloria offers a unique blend:
- She is Singapore’s first CDC Certified Divorce Coach® who is also a practising divorce lawyer.
- She invested time and training (106 hours over 4 months) to obtain her divorce coaching certification.
- Her approach is holistic: she helps with the legal, the emotional, the practical.
How Divorce Coaching Works
When you engage divorce coaching services, here’s broadly how the process with Gloria may flow:
- Initial Consultation – Explore where you are: what your concerns are, what you want out of the process.
- Goal Setting & Planning – Decide what matters most to you (children, finances, emotional health, stability) and map out a strategy.
- Decision Support – Face phase-by-phase decisions: legal, financial, parenting, housing, etc.
- Practical Organisation – Help organise paperwork, map out steps, keep track of what needs doing.
- Emotional Resilience Tools – While this isn’t full counselling, coaching offers tools to manage the emotional stress, maintain clarity, reduce overwhelm.
- Preparing for Post-Divorce Life – Thinking ahead: what do you want life after divorce to look like? How do you rebuild, regain confidence, negotiate co-parenting etc.
Conclusion
Divorce doesn’t have to be chaotic or overwhelming. With the right coaching, you don’t just get through it, you move through with purpose and clarity. Gloria James-Civetta offers divorce coaching only, tailored to your unique situation, helping you make confident decisions rather than simply letting things happen to you.
If you’re facing marital challenges, considering divorce, or are already in the midst of it and want support, feel free to reach out. Divorce coaching may not erase the pain, but it can help you find a way forward, with intention, strength, and hope.
How Gloria Can Guide You Forward
When you reach out to Gloria James-Civetta for divorce
coaching, she will provide a confidential session tailored to
your unique situation and the goals that matter most to you.
Her aim is to help you move forward with clarity and create
a plan that works for your future.
